Monthly Archives: September 2015

What If?


What if I didn’t have to try so hard?

What if I knew that everything would be okay?

What if I never had to worry about saying or doing the right thing?

What if I never had to worry about time or money?

What if I had faith that I would know anything I needed to know when I needed to know it?

What if I could relax?


What if I could have everything I wanted when I wanted it?

What if I could have everything I needed when I needed it?

What if I could do whatever I felt like doing?

What if no effort was required?


What if I could trust my brain?

What if I could trust my body?

What if my body was a self-healing mechanism that would repair itself of any injury or imbalance?


What if I could trust my spirit?

What if I could trust my intuition?

What if I could trust the universe?

What if I could trust God?

What if I could be here now in this very moment?


What if I was good enough?

What if I tried hard enough?

What if I had nothing to prove?

What if I could trust my friends?

What if I could trust my family?

What if I could trust my lover?


What if this life was a marvelous adventure?

What if the world was set up to surprise and delight me?

What if I was cherished by the universe?

What if I was surrounded by love?

What if I was a totally unique consciousness that had never existed before and never would again?

What if I was so valuable that the entire universe expanded because of my existence?

What if there wasn’t a thing for me to worry about?

What if I was okay?

How To Get In A Good Mood


I used to be highly suspicious of the concept of gratitude. It seemed like a lowering of expectations. It seemed like denial. It seemed like glossing over the grittiness of life with a big fake smile.

I may have been depressed. I was suspicious of feeling good. I would allow myself to feel good on special occasions; during a trip to the ocean, while eating a delicious meal, while dancing; but feeling good every day seemed frivolous. Also, I didn’t know how to deliberately feel good.

Imagine my surprise to find that I could learn to feel good most of the time. Not only did feeling good feel good, but it made everything in my life easier. Tasks were more easily accomplished when I felt good. My relationships with people in my life were better when I felt good. I got more of what I wanted when I felt good. I became very interested in feeling good.

I discovered that one easy tool to help me feel good is the gratitude list. It’s just a list of things in my life to feel grateful for. It makes me deliberately find good things in my life.

It’s easy to start with the basics. As Abraham Hicks says, “our earth keeps spinning in its orbit in perfect proximity to other planets.” The sun comes up every day. Lilacs in bloom smell wonderful.

Sometimes I have to trick myself into gratitude by thinking of all the bad things that could happen, but haven’t. Lots of people live in war zones. I don’t. I never have to worry about bombs dropping on me. I have plenty of clean water delivered right to my home. My eyes and ears and limbs all work just fine. By the time I get to the cheesecake available down the street, I’m flying high.

Or maybe I’m just feeling a little bit better. Either way, I’ll take it. I know now that if I get feeling better, life will carry me along to better and better feelings. It just takes a little bit of concentration to get pointed in the right direction. Then I can relax and watch for more of the wonders that life will bring to me.

(Photo courtesy of Debi Barton Haverly, @debihaverly)

Gone Woo Woo

Well, now I’ve done it. I’ve gone totally woo woo. I’m even writing a blog about it.

Yes, I’m coming out of the closet as a believer in the law of attraction. My former self is rolling her eyes and snickering. Why am I willing to risk internal ridicule? It’s simple. This new perspective works. As I learn to take the law of attraction into account, everything in my life works better.

The law of attraction is generally stated as “like attracts like.” It sounds basic – maybe even obvious. The implications are vast.

It means that I can focus on feeling good and bring more and more into my life that feels good. It also means if I feel doomed and keep focusing on how doomed I feel, I’ll bring more doom into my life. This explains a lot in my past.

Part of this phenomenon is that when I feel good, I notice good things more. I’m looking for them. I can take advantage of the good things in my life, because I’m seeing them.

When I’m focused on the bad in my life, I can’t even imagine that there is good around me. I don’t see good things, because my perspective blocks them.

My perspective definitely controls a lot of what I see, but there is another aspect of law of attraction. This is where the woo woo and the magic come. I now believe that my expectations draw much of what I receive from the rest of the world.

My expectations and focus draw the conditions I expect like magnets draw metal. When I let go of trying to figure out how to change my life and I just dream about how I want it to be, it’s startling how much of what I want, shows up in ways I couldn’t have predicted. It does feel like magic. A deep part of me knew all along that the world worked like this.

Abraham Hicks talks about the clarifying nature of contrast. Contrast is what they call those things we don’t necessarily want in our life. I’m starting to appreciate contrast too. Whenever I don’t like something in my life, it does give me a clearer idea of what I would like. The trick is to focus on that new clarity about what I would like, rather than continuing to focus on the negative that clarified it.

This is all pretty woo woo. I’m okay with that. I’m willing to give up a little dignity to have everything else that I want. I am an enthusiastic student of the law of attraction. I want to share what I find and develop a community of like-minded folks. I want to have all the good things that my fevered little brain can imagine. I want that for you too. Join me, won’t you?