Cultivating Frivolity


The other day, I was driving to work and had a brilliant insight. I’m sure you’ll agree. I was thinking about how I wanted to feel at work. I wanted to feel ease. I wanted to feel good. I wanted to have fun. It occurred to me that instead of trying to think of a lot of fun things, I could think of one fun thing and focus on it consistently. Like a humorous mantra.

Luckily, this occurred right after Halloween. I had the perfect image: a Halloween costume. A relative of mine recently got married. She and her husband are adorable. I’ve never met her husband, but I feel like I know him from the many pictures I’ve seen of their courtship. Here they are at the beach. There they are at a wedding. There they are at three more weddings.

Anyway, as their first costumes as husband and wife, they dressed as Kanye West and Taylor Swift at the infamous award ceremony where he interrupted her speech to say that Beyonce should have gotten the award. It was a clever costume and they really did resemble Kanye and Taylor. I was chuckling away on my drive to work just thinking about it.

So, the brilliant insight part is that I just need to find one fun, frivolous thing to think about to get me started on a good mood. Okay, brilliant may be stretching it. How about this? I can spend my time searching out fun, frivolous moments – I can be silly, goofy and almost completely irresponsible – and it will bring me closer to my goals. That, my friends, is the miracle of the law of attraction! Feeling good is enough. Feeling good is the holy grail. Feeling good is what will carry you on a wild and wooly ride through everything you want to experience.

And acting silly is a way to feel good in almost every situation. Telling jokes and funny stories, is how we bond with people we care about. Isn’t it the best feeling in the world when you have a random funny moment with a stranger you pass in the street or meet in the post office?

I work in an assisted living facility for elderly folks. One of my favorite parts of the job is that I can fool around and be completely ridiculous at work and it makes the residents smile. I’m glad I can entertain them, but the real payoff is that I get in a good mood by doing that. I once heard a radio announcer talk about how she always has to be upbeat for the listeners and that made her get in a good mood all the time. It works in my job too.

Of course, I can ruin the good mood with worry and stress. Now that I understand the law of attraction, I have additional motivation to replace the stress with silliness. When I cultivate a good mood, I vibrate in a happy place that attracts more happiness to me. Laughter and everything else I want? I’m in.

(Photo courtesy of Debi Barton Haverly, @debihaverly)