I’ve been trying to solve problems lately. It doesn’t work, but my brain is in that groove, that habit. Find a problem and fix it. That’s how we make life better right?
I used to think so. Now I notice if I focus on a problem too long, even with the intention of solving it, I make the problem bigger. It’s a hell of thing to come to grips with. The habits of a lifetime are taking me in a direction I don’t want to go.
Abraham-Hicks calls this behavior “wrestling a problem to the ground to kill it.” Apparently, this is just an exercise program for our problems that actually makes them bigger and stronger.
I’ve gotten very clever in deceiving myself about my focus on problems. I’ve been applying techniques I’ve learned from law of attraction teachers to try to force solutions to my problems. Same result. The problems get bigger and stronger and meaner. It makes them cocky, to tell the truth. I need another approach.
So I’ve gone back to focusing on the basics of law of attraction. Like attracts like. If I want to feel good, I need to focus on good feelings. As Abraham says, “Everything we want is to feel good in the having of it.” Time to go for the end goal.
How do I do that? I’m learning more techniques. I count the things that are going well in my life. I do silly, trivial, fun things. I pamper myself. I revel in past successes. I relive funny moments. I dream about things I’d like to do in the future and what they will feel like. I do whatever I can do to feel a little bit better. If I can keep my focus on good feelings, momentum takes over and carries me further in the direction I want to go.
Apparently, Esther Hicks does this by focusing on words that represent what she wants to feel. She’ll write the words “fun” or “clarity” over and over until they bring about those feelings. Abraham says that focusing on anything for just 17 seconds, brings more thoughts/feelings/manifestations that match whatever we focus on. The idea is to start the momentum in the direction we want to go and eventually, it will continue on its own. I’m trying and I feel better already.