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How to use the law of attraction at work

Since I’ve been trying to deliberately use the law of attraction in my life, I’ve had a lot of success in using it to improve my work day. I work as a nurse’s aide in an assisted living facility. One day, I noticed that although I generally liked my job, I spent a lot of time resenting parts of it.

I resented spending so much time at work. I resented my co-workers when they didn’t do tasks the way I thought they should. There weren’t any big problems, but the minor habitual resentments I had, didn’t feel good. I deliberately set out to use what I’d learned about the law of attraction to feel better in my job.

It worked!  After a couple of weeks of deliberately doing this, I found I was enjoying my work day more than my free time!  The key was to purposely start good feelings about my job.  The momentum of law of attraction would continue and expand those good feelings.

Here’s how you can use the law of attraction to improve your work-life.

1. Pre-pave the day

Improving my work day started with a decision to feel good.  As I got ready for work, I would tell myself that I was going to have an easy, pleasant day at work.  I kept it general.  I didn’t try to rehearse any specific situation.  I just tried to imagine feeling good at work and having an easy, pleasant day.

In law of attraction circles, this is called pre-paving.  You deliberately decide how you want a certain situation to be and you imagine that situation unfolding as you have chosen.  

Visualization is a popular way of pre-paving. People pre-pave with visualization by imagining the details and the feel of an event unfolding as they wish. Sports figures often use visualization to improve their performance.  I once read about a study where athletes who only visualized improving their game, made as much progress in their skills, as comparable athletes who only practiced their skills physically.

I didn’t find it necessary to get into detailed visualization to improve my work day.  I just practiced how I wanted to feel emotionally.

2. Appreciate

The heart of my practice to improve my work day, was to deliberately appreciate my job. I have an old habit of forgetting about what is going well in my life, and focusing on what isn’t going well.  This practice of appreciation, deliberately countered that old habit.

I started by listing, in my mind, the things I do like about my job.  I found that my commute to work was the perfect time to do this.  I have a beautiful commute to work, through forest and farmland, so it is easy to appreciate the drive.

I appreciated that my job allowed me to earn enough money to pay my bills.  I appreciated that I was doing work that I had chosen because I liked it and it was easy for me.  The building I work in is pretty and well kept.  I get free meals at work which is a wonderful benefit.  I like the people I work with.  I like spending my time taking care of people.  That allows me to sing and act silly in the course of my day.  It entertains the residents and me.

I’ve found that focusing on what I like about my job makes the annoyances fade in comparison.  After some time of doing this practice, I did find that my work day was improved, but still sometimes unpleasant due to conflicts with co-workers.  I discovered that appreciation was a good remedy for those conflicts too.

There was one particular co-worker with whom I was getting into frequent, ridiculous arguments.  I thought that her behavior was mostly to blame, but that didn’t help me.  After one particularly upsetting argument, I was desperate for a solution.

I spent some time writing about the situation to try to understand it.  I eventually decided to try to appreciate what I liked about her.  I started with some general statements.  I was glad that she worked there, otherwise we would be short staffed and my job would be harder. I appreciated that she was reliable. I appreciated the ways that she was good at her job.  I appreciated the pleasant interactions we had in the past.

Eventually, this appreciation of my co-worker dwarfed my irritation at our latest argument and I could feel good about working with her again.  I was a little nervous the next time I saw her, but tried to stay open.  The first thing she did when I saw her, was give me a big hug and say she was sorry. Our relationship was much easier for me from then on.

I’ve found this appreciation of my co-workers to be a useful tool for getting through my days at work.  Whenever someone’s behavior bothers me, I immediately think about what I appreciate about them.  When my irritation is gone, I can solve problems with them in a spirit of cooperation rather than animosity.   

3. Stay in the moment

In The Power of Now, Eckart Tolle talks about how fear and anger are not possible if we are living in the present moment.  We fear what might happen in the future and we get angry about what has happened in the past.  Neither apply when we’re fully inhabiting the present moment.

I love this idea of finding peace in the present moment.  I found it helped me a lot at work.

Staying in the moment helps with my interactions with other human beings. My work is about helping people with varied health conditions, so it’s good to stay flexible.  Staying in the moment allows me to approach each interaction with fresh eyes.  I can see new solutions to problems when I’m not blinded by habitual, old approaches that have failed.

Being in the moment halts any negative momentum that I have going from past situations.  The moment is new, so I can start momentum in ways that feel good to me.

 

Using these simple techniques has made a huge difference in my work day.  I generally enjoy myself at work now.  When I start to have difficulty again, I always find that it’s because I’ve fallen into old habits.  It gets easier and easier to apply these new techniques, develop new habits and feel good.  I hope these techniques help you improve your work life too!

Learning to trust what I want

I’ve always enjoyed writing. As a child I wrote poetry to express my feelings. Later, I experimented with essays, humor, and fiction. I enjoyed writing, but I didn’t think it was very exciting. It was a skill I used to help me think and to express myself, but I was nervous about sharing my writing. Publishing was hard and I wasn’t comfortable with promoting myself, so I always let go of thinking about writing as a potential career.

I have wanted to work as an independent creative person for most of my life. The trouble was, I hadn’t perfected any creative skills that I could readily use to make money. When I moved here, to Vermont, a new friend taught me to quilt. I eventually opened an Etsy shop and tried to create a quilting business.

For five years, I worked at developing my part-time quilting business. I learned a lot in those five years and I don’t regret a moment of it, but ultimately, the quilting business was not for me. I just didn’t like sewing enough.

By the time I shut down the quilting business, I was looking around for another creative endeavor. Writing was there as it had always been there. I didn’t know how or if I could make a living with it, but I decided that I wanted to try.

At this point, I had spent a couple of years learning about law of attraction and related ideas. Reasoning out the path to accomplishing a goal had not worked for me in the past. Instead, I visualized the general end point I wanted to reach and I wrote about it.

I started writing a journal about my happy future life as a full-time writer. That’s where the idea for this blog came from. Every time I would write about my happy future life as a writer, I got a strong urge to create a blog about my experience with the law of attraction.

In September of 2015, I started the blog. I developed lots of grand plans for the blog. I planned to post regularly and guest post on other blogs and create ebooks, all while building a thriving, supportive community.

By the first anniversary of the creation of the blog, I was losing enthusiasm. I had published almost every month, but certainly not as often as I had intended. I had a few regular readers, but I wasn’t getting more. I was making steady progress in setting up my life to better accommodate writing, but it was slow going. I was finding the whole process to be harder than I thought.

By spring, my motivation was almost gone and I stopped writing blog posts for a month or so. I was in a new writing group then and I considered focusing on other forms of writing. I wrote some humor and some essays.

After a month of not writing for the blog, I found I missed it. I missed thinking about the principles that were helping me in my life. I found I was forgetting the things that improved my life: focusing on feeling good, gratitude, being open to positive outcomes. When I wasn’t writing about these things, I forgot them.

I have three friends who read my blog posts regularly. I missed my conversations with them about the my blog posts. I missed the sense of purpose I felt when I was publishing my blog posts and sending them out to subscribers and social media followers.

By May, I was back to writing for the blog and feeling renewed enthusiasm for it. I’ve learned that the thing I love most about writing is the creativity of it. When I write, my brain swirls with new ideas. I want to live in that world of creativity and new ideas.

I’d still like to make a career of writing, but I find that I don’t accomplish things by reasoning out how to accomplish them. I don’t have enough information to intellectually plot the best paths to my goals. I get to where I want to go by enjoying my life now. I get there by having fun and listening to my intuition for the next right step.

For now, I’ll continue to enjoy the creativity of writing. I’ll continue to remind myself of what works in my life and I’ll share that with others who are interested. It’s fun. For now, that’s enough.

My 3 Favorite Web Sites for Law of Attraction Inspiration

Here are the web sites of my favorite teachers, writers and cheerleaders about the law of attraction and other related information. When I want inspiration or guidance about how to make use of the law of attraction in a specific area of my life, I always go to one of these three web sites. The information they provide is grounded, thoughtful and often presented with humor.

Abraham-Hicks

My first real introduction to law of attraction was reading a book by Abraham-Hicks. The book was Ask and it is Given. I still go back to it regularly. It’s a textbook for how to live.

Abraham’s teaching and presentation are always sensible and down to earth. Abraham’s identity is a little different. Abraham says they are a group consciousness interpreted by a woman named Esther Hicks. It’s channeling and it’s woo woo, but I don’t care. Everything she says as Abraham makes sense to me. By following Abraham, I’ve found a philosophy that seems to fit the world I see. The information is practical and Abraham is very funny.

Esther Hicks has been channeling Abraham for 30 years or so. They travel around the country and sometimes internationally, giving seminars where people ask questions and converse with Abraham through Esther. Abraham is beloved around the world. The Abraham-Hicks organization sells books, and DVDs and recordings from Abraham seminars, in various formats. There are even vacation cruises that include Abraham seminars.

Meanwhile, there are lots of free Abraham resources available. On the web site, you can sign up for daily email quotes and there are free videos to watch. The Abraham-Hicks organization also allows people to post recordings of parts of seminars on Youtube. You can search for Abraham-Hicks on Youtube and find enough videos to watch for the rest of your days. Whenever I want help with something, I search for “Abraham-Hicks” and the topic, for example “releasing fear.” It’s a great resource.

Pam Grout

Pam Grout is a freelance travel writer who also writes about spiritual principles, in fun, easy to understand ways. Her books, E-Squared and E-Cubed, are inspiring and humorous. Both books are filled with experiments that she encourages readers to carry out to prove to themselves the validity of a universe that conspires to help us.

Her most recent book, Thank and Grow Rich, is a handy guide to the many ways to use gratitude to make our lives better.

Pam also publishes a blog where she shares inspiring success stories, often sent in by her readers. Her style is light and engaging. When I see her posts in my Facebook feed, I perk up immediately. Reading one of her blog posts is always a bright spot in my day.

Good Vibe University

Good Vibe University is the brain child of Law of Attraction coach, Jeannette Maw. It’s a membership site with recorded webinars available on applying law of attraction to all sorts of life situations. It’s also a community with discussion forums, classes and even coaching available.

In connection with Good Vibe University, Jeannette publishes a blog about making use of the law of attraction in our lives. Her advice is always useful, based on years of coaching clients. It’s a resource I count on to remind me of the principles I want to apply in my life.

My favorite blog post by Jeannette is about allowing. It’s funny as well as helpful. Check it out here.

There are lots of people writing and speaking online about law of attraction. I count on these three web sites for consistently good and entertaining advice.