crisis: a dramatic emotional or circumstantial upheaval in a person’s life (from dictionary.com)
I’ve noticed that my use of law of attraction principles has been most effective when I’ve been in crisis. I can accomplish almost anything if I feel like I have no choice. I would like to learn to generate the benefits of crisis without an actual crisis.
I’ve been thinking about one particular crisis I went through. I believe the ways I automatically cope with crisis, could be applied to any goal. My crisis was that on my way to work on a cold November day, my car died by the side of the road. The car couldn’t be fixed. I had no money for another car and no credit. I had to have a car to get to work or do almost anything in my semi-rural community.
Here are the 5 lessons that I learned from coping with that crisis.
1. Focus exclusively on the goal.
When something is going wrong, my focus is sharpened. The crisis has all of my attention. When my car died, my attention was exclusively on getting home, then getting a new car. It took me a week to resolve this crisis. Getting a new car was my exclusive focus for the whole week.
2. Maintain focus until the goal is achieved.
Crisis keeps my attention on the change I want to make until it is made. I can’t shrug it off and go into denial when a crisis must be dealt with. I did not and could not stop focusing on getting a new car until I had a new car.
3. Ask for help.
Asking for help can be hard, but a crisis makes it unavoidable. In my car crisis, I asked for help figuring out what to do. I asked for rides to get to work and to get to the local car dealership. Sometimes I just talked to people about what was going on and they spontaneously offered help. Help from others got me to my goal and helped me to function in the meantime. I discovered that I am surrounded by a loving community that will help me when I ask.
4. Be open to new approaches.
Some 12-step groups say that crisis brings the gift of desperation. In the car crisis, I had to find a solution so I could work and support myself. I was desperate, so I considered every solution I could imagine. I considered applying to the one place within walking distance where I could use my current job skills. I even walked there to see how long it would take. (45 minutes) I considered moving to a city if I couldn’t get a car. I asked a couple of people to co-sign a car loan. Neither could, but one offered me a loan for a down payment on a car.
5. Use spiritual guidance.
When I’m frightened or confused, I often turn to spiritual solutions. While dealing with my car crisis, I prayed, I meditated and I very deliberately used law of attraction principles. When I didn’t know what to do, I reminded myself that the situation could work out well, even if I didn’t know the solution at that particular moment. I deliberately appreciated everything I could. I visualized and talked about the outcome I would like to achieve.
How did the crisis resolve? Within a week, I had a two year old car, with just 30,000 miles on it. In addition to the down payment loan, I had a car loan I could afford with a reasonable interest rate.
Now I’m working on applying these techniques to a goal that I’ve wanted to achieve for a long time.
I’ll let you know if it works.